My Summer Rewind: An Ode to Self-Care 15-“On the Radio”

When it comes to in-car music, my daughter and nephew have no idea how great they have it. They have let it be known-as individuals and in concert-they are not particularly fond of my music choices when I am their source of transportation. I’ve heard many-a-gripes about my “annoying 90’s music.” Do I care? Not […]

My Summer Rewind: An Ode to Self-Care 13-“What You Tryna Do”

I attended Dad 2.0, a conference for writers, bloggers, influencers, and media personalities who are fathers, in Washington DC in February. It was a surreal experience to introduce myself to people I’d known for years but never met in person. I felt validated as several dads told me they enjoyed my work and introduce myself […]

My Summer Rewind: An Ode to Self-Care 12-“Only U”

I went on my first “date” six weeks after Timile passed away. There was no love connection nor was it the purpose. I moved back to New York in late November 2012 and had little time or bandwidth to grieve. Most of my time and energy was focused on what would become seven court appearances […]

My Summer Rewind: An Ode to Self-Care 11-“Palmolive”

“Palmolive” by Freddie Gibbs featuring Killer Mike and Pusha T puts me into a zone. It’s easy to get caught up in the perfect vibe as the emcees to wax poetic about their past pursuits to make money over super producer Madlib’s sampled-soundbed, “Cry of a Dreamer” by the Sylvers. The lyrics sound like the […]

My Summer Rewind: An Ode to Self-Care 10-“Play No Games”

I’m certain as of on August 29, 2012, I wrote many aspects of my life into existence. Two days after Single Dadventure went live, I was in Washington DC, and life became a romantic comedy that has kept my close friends very entertained by shenanigans. As I churned out insights about love and life after […]

My Summer Rewind: An Ode to Self-Care 5-“Liquid Swords”

Merriam-Webster defines style as A) a distinctive manner of expression. B) A distinctive manner of behavior or conduct of oneself. C) A particular manner or technique by which something is done, created, or performed. From 1999 until 2003, “You write how you talk” was a phrase I heard from every high school English teacher; it […]

My Summer Rewind: An Ode to Self Care 3-“Camay”

I played “Camay” by Ghostface Killah, Raekwon, and Capadonna all throughout the summer of 2019. When I write an essay or article based on a song, I listen to it on a loop, until I finish the piece. My creative process begins when a song or conjures up a thought or formulate a loose outline […]

My Summer Rewind: An Ode to Self-Care 2-“Keep it Real”

There is an almost 3,000-word essay, lodged in a folder on an external hard drive. Hell, the hard drive said essay resides is attached to this very computer. But this is an exercise, so it’s too early in the process to feel lazy and share from the archives to meet an intense quota I set […]

To My Non-Parents Out There: Your’re Not Really Busy…

I have a friend who is incredibly busy. They have as we colloquially say “More jobs than a Jamaican” and keep it moving. They just got a promotion. I told them “Congratulations! You’re almost as busy as a parent.” They’re response was “I’ve already been as busy as a parent.” I almost laughed uncontrollably. A […]

The Saddest Part

I was once told by a friend that when it comes to emotions I am a robot. She would often joke about it because I tend to not put on display how I really feel. I’ve always been that way. I tend to internalize my thoughts and feelings and all that is seen to the […]